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I was reading a discussion over at one of the online clubbing communities I belong to...it was about men and women and platonic friendships. I personally don't think they exist 'cuz I'm of the school that believes that at some point or another one party is going to have a crush on the other. Platonic friendships is all about maturity. Can you deal with your lust/emotions enough to look past it and keep your friendship strong? Or on the flipside, can you deal with their lust/emotions enough to not let it create weirdness between the two of you and keep your friendship strong? Not to say that there wouldn't be any weirdness for a while, but at least you wouldn't let it destroy what the two of you have together.

An update on the saga between me and my two friends who are dating: life goes on. I don't feel like explaining my actions to her and while I wouldn't mind setting myself straight with him I won't simply 'cuz he's with her. And if he's with her then that's the type of guy he is and eventually him and I would end up down the same road that I have now passed with his girlfriend. We hadn't gotten there yet, him and I...I was still having fun with him and enjoying his friendship. But I could sense the changes going on in him, he was becoming like her. And the truth is I don't need people like her in my life. Our friendship, though I felt it was good back in the day, has become dead weight in my life now that has surprisingly been easy and painless to remove. I miss him from time to time, but it's worth it to dismiss him as well. I'm being pro-active here. They probably think I'm avoiding them out of jealousy but they can believe whatever they want. It's no longer my concern.

I've got a cousin that treats me the way those two do. And while I miss her and her family and how I used to visit them regularly my epiphany about the dating friends also helped me realize why I haven't made it a major priority to go visit my cousin. It's definitely harder with her since she's family and of course I love her. But also since she's family I know her and I can resolve this and she'll learn to respect me the way I deserve. We'll be just fine.

Anyway, I digress...platonic friendships. They don't exist if you always act on your emotions/instincts. I've had crushes on quite a few of my guy friends, but I deal. However, there has always been this one guy who I could never get over. Close friends know how it is for me about this guy. This is a crush hardcore.

Mythical proportions.

Years and years and years.

As Posie has said, this guy has become the standard I've held up to other guys all throughout my past. Maybe that's why I've been single forever. Maybe that's also why I don't stress about being single the way others stress. I've found what I want, it's just a matter of getting it. So now it's not a matter of being mature and suppressing my feelings...it's all about being mature and expressing them. This throws my whole theory out the window, doesn't it?

Heaven help me if he ever got married and it wasn't to me.

Song of the day:

Thin Line ~ Jurassic 5 Feat. Nelly Furtado


CHALI 2NA
Yo, this is a lesson in friendship
The depths of a kinship
Where women and men begin with, and then slip
My pen drips as I scribble my thoughts
On thin strips of emotion
A fraction, seduction, attraction,
Eruption of passion corrupts if
A lasted friendship's involved
Would love to cross the line
But that’s why we built these walls

AKIL
We’ve been friends for a long time
A very close friend of mine
Love you like you was mine
But respect the thin line
I love you like you was mine
Think about you all the time
Very close friend of mine
But respect the thin line

Opposites attract
When the female and male come in contact
Sticky situation in fact
Trying not to let the feelings catch
But there’s a thin line between both of ya’ll
So you respect that
And entertain an idea but get brought
Back to reality
And could you really live with that
Decision, based on intuition
You love and keep your distance
Hug and kiss in friendship

MARC 7
An ongoing friendship
We was people to begin with
Disrespect was not intended
But your feelings sparked a sentence
Sometimes you’re too intense
In your quest to invent
The perfect man
Please understand my rhyme is your repent

AKIL/NELLY
We’ve been friends for a long time
A very close friend of mine
Love you like you was mine
But respect the thin line
I love you like you was mine
Think about you all the time
Very close friend of mine
But respect the thin line
We’ve been friends for a long time
A very close friend of mine
Love you like you was mine
But respect the thin line
I love you like you was mine
Think about you all the time
Very close friend of mine
But respect the thin line

SOUP
Too bad that we became friends first
And I’m not an expert on how relationships work
But, from the minute it was known
It changed the whole tone
The way we spoke on the phone
Yo, it was cool but I felt it wasn’t enough
And I was stuck when your moms would pick it up
Over you all my buddies would swoon
But I felt we were in tune
You let me up in your room (damn)
But to me girl you’re still off limits
No matter all the times that I hinted (Yo, whatchu doin after this?)
Infatuation was authentic
But yo I just pretended
So I wouldn’t lose the friendship
Maybe I should spill all my guts
Or write a letter, then tear it up
Or do a song just to say what’s up
I want just a touch

AKIL/NELLY
We’ve been friends for a long time
A very close friend of mine
Love you like you was mine
But respect the thin line
I love you like you was mine
Think about you all the time
Very close friend of mine
But respect the thin line
We’ve been friends for a long time
A very close friend of mine
Love you like you was mine
But respect the thin line
I love you like you was mine
Think about you all the time
Very close friend of mine
But respect the thin line

NELLY
I can’t do this anymore
See my heart just falls out when you walk in the door
Friendship turned into lust
On some unique tip
See I can’t comprehend even if I knew it
Can’t do justice with these things that I’m feeling
You’ve got someone else don’t want to be caught stealing
Hell, if she knew she would never leave us alone in the room

CHALI 2NA
Yo, this was a lesson in friendship
I stress in this sentence
Should women and men be friends first
And then slip
My pen drips as I scribble my thoughts on thin strips of devotion

AKIL
Opposites attract
And best friends make a perfect match
If you only knew that
Once you cross ain’t no turning back
The minute you let him in it and he hit that
That’s that

MARC 7
We was people to begin with
But you was too relentless
Jeopardizing kinship
Respect is intended
Resolve is my intent
While we’ve got an in
I’m trying to salvage a friendship

AKIL/NELLY
We’ve been friends for a long time
A very close friend of mine
Love you like you was mine
But respect the thin line
I love you like you was mine
Think about you all the time
Very close friend of mine
But respect the thin line
We’ve been friends for a long time
A very close friend of mine
Love you like you was mine
But respect the thin line
I love you like you was mine
Think about you all the time
Very close friend of mine
But respect the thin line