Insurance

I watched dating drama unfold for a friend the other night. Hearing - secondhand - both sides of the tale made me contemplate how much of the drama we create for ourselves. Does it all stem from a common source? One thing I noticed right away was that we all deal with it differently.

Maybe there are other factors uniqute to each situation but it seems clear to me that a lot of our drama is fueled by insecurity. Examples that come to mind:
- Latina's recent dating scenario
- Mr Guy the relationship addict and his domestic bliss
- Myself - yes, I recognized (for the first time?!) that I harbor some insecurities

Let's start with Mr Guy as he is the most dated example and it won't take long to break him down.

My feeling was he was too insecure to be comfortable with his singledom. His track record BL (Before Leah)hinted at it from the get-go. Married, then long-term relationship, then engaged. After we met for the first time he vanished off the face of the Earth. You can probably guess what happened: an ex came back into the picture. Why try something new when you already know what's comfortable?

Like a rookie dater I chased after him because nothing is more maddening than someone that vanishes. Eventually he showed up again but I had already tired of the game. And it didn't help things that he tried to pick up every single girl I introduced him to.

Thankfully for everyone involved he finally found someone to take up his offer.

Obviously, in relationships there are wants or needs that each person fulfills for the other. From the obvious and superficial level she granted him the relationship he felt he needed and he, in turn, provided her with an opportunity to move out.

It will be interesting to take inventory of what I am wanting and compare it to what I feel I have to offer.